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  • Cherish your cherubs: The birth story I rarely tell

    Cherish your cherubs: The birth story I rarely tell

    baby smilingWEEK two of Naomi from Seven Cherub’s Cherish Your Cherubs project is to “remember” a moment of your child/ren’s life. Regular readers will be familiar with my From bump to baby in six hours post. This was Ella’s birth story. It was a dream – six hours, no drugs and a huge three-course meal to follow. Ah, the memories.

    However, rarely do I discuss Baby Holly’s birth and I most certainly haven’t recorded it. But I should. Here’s why:

    There’s something about our li’l girls and national sporting events. I sometimes wonder if it’s their first little message to their Dad that they’ll forever keep him on his toes. Princess Ella was due Melbourne Cup Day, but came six days later. Much to The Bloke in The Shed’s relief.

    Baby Holly was due a week after the AFL grand final. That was until his beloved Collingwood Pies and St Kilda ended the big game in a draw – and had to come back for a rematch a week later. “You know what’s going to happen, don’t you?’’ he asked. “She’ll come right in the middle of next week’s grand final and I’ll miss the game.’’ I laughed – because I’d been thinking the exact same thought.

    baby smile

    One week passed. The three of us sat down to watch the big game – again. Well, one of us did. Two of us watched The Fairies. At quarter time, I went off to do what every woman does at this point in a footy game – a whizzer.  However, I got more than I bargained for. “Ahhh, I think she might be on her way,’’ I announced on my return. The Bloke in The Shed’s face turned whiter than my legs at the end of winter. Unless of course some major deforestation needs to take place and then who knows what’s going on down there.

    His panic was partly because, well, the game’s not over yet and Collingwood were a chance. And partly because Ella came in a major rush and apparently these babies get quicker each time. Should we hit the road now? In typical Baby Holly style, she teased us for the rest of the day. Unlike Collingwood, which pulled off a victory and prompted the first of many tears to come from The Bloke in The Shed over the next 24 hours.

    baby's hand

    After lying awake all night, by 5am she was well and truly packing her bag and preparing for her journey. I figured I’d best do the same. I woke The Bloke in The Shed and had mum pedal faster than the Flinstones to come look after Ella, who was still blissfully sleeping.

    At the hospital we settled into a room and then the bath and then… waited. I was constantly asked if I wanted drugs. I obviously looked like I was in a lot of pain. “No, I’m fine,’’ I said. I’d done Ella’s birth drug free, this one should be a piece of cake. Besides, I don’t do drugs. But I will do a pina colada.

    baby smiles

    When nothing continued to happen – or not happen –the decision was made to break my waters to get things moving. Bear in mind, I’d only really been in labour a few hours. I was advised pethidine would be a good idea, so I reluctantly took it. And regreted it. But that’s another post for another day. In just seven hours (I know, really, what was the rush?) Baby Holly was on the cusp of taking her first breath. This birth hadn’t gone as I’d planned and was mostly a blur, but it didn’t matter.

    At that moment, one of the midwives grabbed our camera. Even thinking about that now makes me shudder. A million thoughts ran through my head. The loudest was: No, woman, put that thing away. Please. Unfortunately, the snaps were taken. It was like the paparazzi chasing Paris Hilton, trying for every angle possible. I kept those photos. I have no idea why.

    baby's eyelashes

    Within seconds, those thoughts had gone and instead I was totally focused on the li’l princess in my arms. As far as dried up prunes go, she was gorgeous. The tears from The Bloke in The Shed said it all. While those early moments together – just the three of us – were precious, there was a moment that superseded them all.

    The magic moment, the one I most want to have recorded, is when Ella walked into the room. She burst through the doors, face beaming and, without giving her Dad or I a second glance, squealed: “Where’s Baby Holly?’’. Just like that. She then ran frantically around the room, trying to figure out where she was meant to be going. It had been such a long nine months for her, that the reality of her sister being here was all too much. The look on her little face when she caught sight of her brought me to tears. She was just so overcome with this little person that would now and forever be in her life.

    Sisters

    Nearly 11 months on, that love hasn’t diminished. Constantly I catch them cuddling and kissing each other unprompted. I can’t imagine their lives without each other.

    two sisters cuddling
    Princess Ella and Baby Holly cuddling

    If you have older children, what were their first reactions to seeing their new sibling? What about you – how did you react?

  • Grateful for my bloggy daughter

    Grateful for my bloggy daughter

    Baby girl
    The last photo taken of Baby Holly before she “did the deed''.

    This week I’m grateful for:

    • Princess Ella starting to get this bloggy thing. After drawing a picture on her Magna Doodle of her and I holding babies each (yes, questions to be asked there), she said: “look at what I just blogged, Mum?’’
    • That the fully furnished cardboard box doll house has been such a hit for her today, after battling a high temperature last night and chesty cough today. Was so lovely to see her happily playing.
    • That earlier in the week she captured a moment in time that I wouldn’t think to photograph. I’ve decline showing it here, because Baby Holly may well divorce me in years to come. However, let’s just say the grimace on Baby Holly’s face told the full story. The odour in the room only complimented that. And the reason I’m grateful? Can you imagine how much ammunition I’ll get out of that on her 21st birthday?

    I’m joining with  Maxabella Loves to share what I’m grateful for.

  • How to make Harvey Norman-worthy furniture for your doll house

    How to make Harvey Norman-worthy furniture for your doll house

    I KNOW that you’ve all been waiting for the follow up post to the grand doll house. You know, the one where I promised the equally grand doll furniture? Well, the wait is over. Brace yourselves – this post features furniture that even Harvey Norman would be happy to house. Prices will never be slashes on these little beauties.

    doll house furniture

    Before unveiling the wonderful individual creations we made yesterday, there are a few things I know I learnt and want to share.

    • I know I forgot an oven. Maybe it was a subconscious thing, because cooking dinner conjures up images of witching / arsenic / feral hour.
    • I know that while you left beautiful comments on the grand doll house post (for which I was very grateful), you were surely humouring me when you said you liked the beer carton version. Right?
    • I know I have a creative daughter. Despite being quite ill yesterday and wanting to just watch mummy make the furniture for her to play with, she did manage to make a car – unprompted and without assistance.

    • I know this project would have been great for product placement. Now there’s an idea for brands!

    doll house furniture

    So, I know that about now you’re itching to find out how to make the furniture. So here goes:

    • Take an egg carton and a used toilet roll

    doll house furniture

    • Cut out two of the cups from the egg carton and cover in coloured paper to make chairs. Cut the toilet roll in half and glue to a circle to make a table. We used a piece of foam from a craft bucket.

    doll house furniture

    • Take a rectangle box (see the product placement photo) and open one end so the flaps become a bed head and bedside drawers. Cover with a piece of decorated paper for a bedspread. Fold paper over a straight piece of egg carton for a pillow.

    doll house furniture

    • Take another rectangle box.

    doll house furniture

    • Cover it in paper and draw on a sink, taps, cupboards and drawers.

    doll house furniture

    • Use a Kinder Surprise toy container for a… loo. Yes, we don’t have an oven, but we have a dunny. And it’s in the bedroom. Let’s hope bowel movements happen in the mornings.

    doll house furniture Kinder Surprise

    • Positioned right where people can see through the window. Classy.

    doll house furniture

    • Assemble it all into the house and… ta da! Fit for a princess… who probably just wants to curl up in the bed right now and sleep. Poor little girl.

    doll house furniture

    Does your child have a doll house – made or bought? Or maybe one of those cool two-storey car parks with a ramp?

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  • SLEEP CHALLENGE: The secret to getting your children to love bedtime

    SLEEP CHALLENGE: The secret to getting your children to love bedtime

     

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    Ella as she was dressed at the beginning of the night.

    STILL battling a feral teething, sleepless baby, I thought I’d tackle something more positive for this month’s Sleep Challenge. Like, how to get your children to love bedtime. Apologies if you just choked on your Weetbix. I say positive, because I’m pretty thankful the princesses are in bed by 7pm and happy to be there. What’s our secret?

    It’s something we heard from some expert on a radio program a few years back and since adopting it, it’s turned bedtime around for us. Baby Holly is still a little young for this to be of any effect, but it’s ideal for three-year-old Ella.

    Rather than throwing them over your shoulder, legs kicking and screaming so loud it makes the neighbours contemplate calling Family Services, we do the bedtime routine – milk, books and songs. OK, nothing new there. Unless, of course, you include the addition of jokes. Knock knock jokes to be exact. Humdingers like:

    Ella: “Knock knock’’

    Dad: “Who’s there?’’

    Ella: “Ben.’’

    Dad: “Ben who?’’

    Ella: “You’d better go and ben-d down or you’ll spread Vegemite all over your face. Hahaha!’’

    Not so thankful for those jokes. But I digress.

    The key is then leaving on her night light and allowing her to read or play quietly until she’s sleepy. I know, not very groundbreaking. But it works. The idea is that kids should be allowed to go to sleep when they’re ready. They shouldn’t be forced to go to sleep when they’re not sleepy. This turns the whole experience into a positive one.

    So now, we do our bedtime routine, tell her to read or play and that we’ll check in on her in 10 minutes. Sometimes when we go back in she’s out to it. Usually she’s upside down and wearing half her dress up box. But she’s in bed asleep, none the less. Other times she has all her “friends’’ (aka teddies and dolls) lined up in bed and a book turned outwards as she reads to them. She even does the “licking your finger’’ thing before turning pages.

    Sure, there are periods where she keeps getting out of bed. “I need a wee. I need something to drink. I need… attention!’’ We just adopt the reward system – if you don’t get out, you get a reward at the end of the week. For us, it works.

    baby playing with dummyPS. This post was inspired by a Twitter conversation about what time your children go to bed, with Lina from Mother’s Love Letters, Megan from Writing Out Loud (whose daughter “asked’’ to go to bed at 6.30pm last night), Alli from Motivating Mum (who responded with “What! I wish!’), Kirsty from Mummy To Five (who has five in bed by 7pm) and Sarah from Whisper Mum’s The Word. It was then taken to Facebook, where it exploded.

    The consensus was 6.30-7.30pm. A few were 8-8.30pm. Some moved sleep times later as their children got older.

    Read more from the Sleep Challenge.

    Linking up with the lovely Kate Says Stuff’s Thankful Thursday. Click on the link to find out what others are thankful for this week.

  • Cherish your cherubs: Recording my princesses’ lives

    Cherish your cherubs: Recording my princesses’ lives

    Two girls, touching nose
    Best friends and sisters

    LONG-time readers may remember the Happiness Project I took part in, courtesy of Naomi from Seven Cherubs. She’s now started another project, this time titled Cherish Your Cherubs. It will run over six weeks with a different weekly task – record, remember, interview, praise, write and affection.

    The assignment for this week was to Record what your cherubs are like right now. Naomi posed some questions to think about before writing, but I thought I’d just answer those questions directly.

    Here they are:

    Ella, nearly four years old (just ask her), intelligent, funny and a giggle pot. She possesses great empathy and love towards others.

    1. Her interests: singing, dancing and talking… lots of it!
    2. What she likes: She is obsessed with ABC Reading Eggs, which is an online tool to help children from 4-7 years read. She was flying through it, until our free subscription ran out. Looks like I’ll be subscribing!
    3. What she dislikes: Baked beans.
    4. Favourite food: Steak. Yes, expensive taste.
    5. Favourite game to play: Snap, which is actually Fish. I taught her Snap, then called it Fish, now she refuses to accept it’s not called Snap.
    6. Favourite saying: Other than “I’m huuuungry’’, she ends nearly every sentence with “OK?’’ (said with a slight drawl) For eg, “I need something to eat, OK?’’, “I need to go to the toilet, OK?’’
    7. Favourite song: Justine Clarke’s I Love To Sing and Play School’s Put Your Finger On Your Finger On Your Finger – just that particular verse… over and over again.
    8. Favourite television show: Despite hearing quite a bit of “to your stations, Octonauts’’, I am rather happy to say it’s still ol’ favourite, Play School.
    9. Favourite book: This changes too frequently, mainly because we go to the library most Saturdays. Today it would be Hairy Maclary from Donaldson’s Dairy.
    10. Favourite friend: Definitely her baby sister. She loves her like she loves no other. As far as non-related friends, she has a bestie at school (aka child care) who she keeps inviting to come for a sleepover. When I ask where she’d sleep, she replies: “my bean bag’’.

    babyHolly, 10 months old, happy, easy going and pretty adept at meeting the physical milestones early. Loves to give kisses.

    1. Her interests: Dancing and singing. Can you see a theme here? Already, she rocks it out when music plays and starts making a “ahhhh’’ noise.
    2. What she likes: Boobie juice and the sight of mum, dad or her sister first thing after waking up.
    3. What she dislikes: Sleep… still.
    4. Favourite food: Steak. Where do these girls get their taste from?
    5. Favourite game to play: Peek-a-boo.
    6. Favourite saying: “Dad dad’’. Although, I am proud to add that today (what timing, hey) there was a clear and distinct “mum’’. Yay!
    7. Favourite song: When her sister sings Put your finger on your finger on your finger.
    8. Favourite television show: OK, so she’s not old enough for TV just yet, but she has been known to become a little glued to the box when Toy Box comes on.
    9. Favourite book: Growl. Eeerytime the word “growl’’ is read, she responds with “grrrr’’. Cute.
    10. Favourite friend: Her big sister. Clearly. Apart from when she gets in her face too much and then she doesn’t want a bar of her.

    What traits do you love about your cherubs? Can you relate to any of the above?

    Read more Cherish Your Cherubs: Record posts.

  • Grateful for the moment things go wrong

    Grateful for the moment things go wrong

    THIS week’s Grateful For post was all planned out in my head. It was going to be an absolutely cracking read – as always. However, something happened last minute today that made me use the word “grateful’’ in a sentence. So I’m posting about that instead.

    OK, let’s start from the beginning:

    End of June: Ella’s child health nurse played some fun eye games with Ella before dropping the bomb – Ella was slightly vision impaired in her left eye. Probably not worth a whole post, but that’s what you got.

    August 4: We were given a referral to a specialist, who happened to be on holidays. So we got his registrar. After the saddest face I’ve seen on Ella in a while after having drops and bright lights flashed in her eyes, we were told the news I’d been dreading – Ella would need glasses.

    August 10: Finally got around to getting her to the optometrist to choose what were going to be “pink glasses like Rhapsody from The Fairies’’. I had fears it would end up looking more like Esme Watson from A Country Practise. However, I couldn’t find the prescription. I swear, it wasn’t me. Like a kid who lost her homework, I had to call for another. I mustered up the courage, only to be told that (for reasons I won’t go into), Ella would need to be retested. *sigh*

    August 17: The female specialist revealed Ella was slightly long sighted in her left eye. OK, a little more information is good. With these results, the senior specialist then came in and said he’d like to see her himself two days later. OK, should I now be worried?

    Yesterday: We played doctors and nurses, putting “raindrops’’ (Ella’s term) in patient Ella’s eyes for much of the day (there’s nothing like a bit of role playing to make the real task easier). That night I scored the wishbone from the chicken at dinner. “What’s your wish, Mum?’’ Ella asked. “I can’t tell, or it won’t come true,’’ I said.

    Today: After successfully getting the “raindrops’’ in both eyes and making it to the specialist without too much panic, 10 minutes later he announces my wishbone wish had come true: “Ella doesn’t need glasses’’. What? Seriously? I have been through all that and now… nothing? More correctly, we had the choice to give her glasses and see if it improved the slight prescription she has or do nothing. After 90 seconds of silence, he then said: “I don’t think we’ll worry about glasses.’’ Ahhhhh, such relief…..

    She will have to return in December for another check up (will keep you posted) but for now, at least, it seems glasses – and the Esme Watson look – are not a part of her life.

    So, the moral of this story is that sometimes when things go wrong they can actually turn out to be something you are truly grateful for.

    I’m joining with  Maxabella Loves to share what I’m grateful for.